R.A.I.N.

RAIN.

(R)ecognize. Recognize the feelings, emotions or behaviors that are here. Check in to see if it feels as if it’s viscerally settled somewhere in your body. Is it showing up as anxiety or a panicked feeling of a desire to get out of this moment?

(A)llow. When we choose to not accept this moment we respond reflexively by adding to the experience with more shame or judgement, we numb, disassociate or distract. Instead, try siting with it for just a moment.

(I)nvestigate (with kindness). Once you allow yourself to step into this experience, look at how it shows up in your body, breath, thought patterns and external environments. We’re naturally curious creatures with a sense of play and a desire to seek out truth when life is fun but we’ve created maladaptive patterns and emotions when we’re scared or in averse circumstances. Next time, be kind, stay curious, ask questions.

(N)onattachment. We’re wired for self preservation, clinging to negative experiences is a way we survive. ‘Remember so you don’t forget’. The mechanism that once saved our lives is now making us miserable and living lives that lack self compassion and kindness, guilt, and an over abundance of obligations. Next time, give yourself the permission to know and feel that you’re bigger than this averse experience, that this is a fleeting period and what comes next isnt the same. Change is here and it’s coming again. Detach yourself from the chains of who you think you are.